“It wasn’t on purpose.”
“I didn’t mean it.”
“I couldn’t help it.”
“It was a mistake.”
Young children cannot comprehend
(and many adults care not to)
that no matter how sincere or honest
or heartfelt those expressions might be
they do not, can not and will not
in and of themselves
put Humpty together again.
None of them are apologies.
They’re not even acknowledgments of any wrong-doing.
If nothing else, one still needs to
– at the very least –
attempt to pick up the pieces,
unquestionably a more effective effort when it is a joint effort.
J. K. R. Nash IV
I don’t know that people ever “fall out of love” with each other.
Sometimes I think it’s merely that two people’s love for each other, their growth with and through each other kind of take them off in a different direction.
Heads the relationship off in two different directions.
But if you loved them once before, there were reasons, and unless you have it in mind to deprive yourself of the memories of those pleasures, those reasons will still be there.
The love is still there, but someone just feels they need to do something with else with it.
Sometimes that might be leaving.
I’ve been with my wife for thirty-eight years. Wouldn’t have it any other way …
… but forty-one years ago I ran someone off who could easily have remained a treasured, valuable, irreplaceable and beloved friend merely because I refused to let go of the love we had enjoyed.
Some kids just don’t know how good they could have it if only they would let it happen.
Neil Young to David Briggs, his long-time friend of twenty-six years, producer of seventeen of Neil’s albums:
“If you agreed with me all the time, there wouldn’t be any need for one of us. Guess which one?”
I wish I had used that in a toast at Thomas and Melissa’s wedding last January. Seeing as how I didn’t even think of it at the time, I’ll definitely pass it on to Thomas to use at Liz and my 5oth anniversary party.